An interview about love triangles and the geometry of love.
How do they appear and how do they live.
The time of falling in love brings not only romance, but sometimes big problems- if an unexpected feeling arose in the family of partners, but not at all to each other.
adult game
- This phenomenon is probably the eternal problem of married couples?
In almost all multi-page love novels of past centuries, and even today, one can find descriptions of mental rushes due to life in love triangles. When she loves one, but lives with another, and he loves her, but is dating another.
I don't understand when they say that this has never happened before. And it cannot be said that now there are more love triangles. Love Triangles is a great and most interesting adult game. Better than computer games stronger than drugs.
How are love triangles made?
First of all, it is a form of complex relationship, a sign of a crisis between people who live together. The presence of a third, oddly enough, makes this relationship more stable. After all, a triangle is the most stable figure in geometry. And in psychotherapy there is the principle of a stool: a stool will never stand on two legs, at least a third is needed for stability.
Therefore, during a crisis in the family, each of its participants at some point can begin to look for that person with whom it will be a little better, more comfortable. And it's not about sex at all, but about human relationships.
- What does a relationship crisis look like?
For example, a couple lives in which something begins to happen that makes the life of one unbearable. The reason is a chronic lack of emotions, attention, affection, recognition, respect, and so on. At one fine moment, another person appears who can make up for this deficiency.
I remember there was an interesting case. The man was married for a very long time. They had children. And suddenly, unexpectedly for himself, as he says, he began dating another woman. At an appointment with a psychotherapist, the man admitted that he did not understand why he was attracted to her. “She is not as good as my wife, she is not as beautiful, not as successful. Generally worse than a wife. But I think about her every day."
To the question “What do you get from her,” the client replied: “I hear every time that I am good and amazing.” When there is no openness, recognition, emotional intimacy in the family, then any person begins to look for it on the side.
- But what about the accidents that are also described in novels?
I don't really believe in coincidence. When people get married or even just move in together, they know what they're signing up for. A man himself chooses a woman with whom he is going to live. Here he meets another on the side and it seems that some decision needs to be made, but the love triangle allows you to leave everything as it is. A man understands how “convenient” it is to have both a mistress and a wife. And a woman sees how comfortable it is when there is a lover and a husband.
And for recent years Two I noticed that an equal number of mistresses who are in relationships with married men and wives who are cheating on their husbands began to come to the reception. At the same time, there are many times fewer men with such a topic at consultations. This suggests that it is always more convenient for a man to have, on the one hand, an official complex relationship with his wife, on the other hand, easy and pleasant with his mistress. But this situation lasts for the time being.
The price of comfort
How long can a love triangle last? After all, the truth is always revealed.
In my memory, the longest lasted 15 years - for so many years the mistress was waiting for a man. When you go into such a relationship, you must always be aware of the price you have to pay, and the price is sometimes too high. There is a stereotype - every lover wants to become a wife.
A more common situation is when a woman cannot wait a long time for a man, and a wife cannot endure her husband's betrayal for a long time. On this basis, many tears, irritations, experiences, resentments and feelings of guilt arise. An exception to the rule is a wife with a girlfriend's mistress, who know about each other, discuss their man and everyone is comfortable and good.
- How to exist in such a situation?
Everyone in the love triangle has a role to play. A man, complaining to his mistress about his wife, is looking for a rescuer in her. It's always nice to be rescued from a bad wife. The wife acts as a stalker. She always says that her husband is bad, and pursues her mistress, accusing her for some reason of destroying the family. And then the roles change, and the deceived wife becomes a victim, upset that she is being deceived, and the husband finds himself in the role of a rescuer. Everyone plays, walks along the edge and waits. Such a life is very exciting and becomes comfortable.
Game by the rules
The rules of life in a love triangle are simple. One must persecute the other, the other must blame. The first should feel great pleasure from the fact that he suffers from remorse - to demand attention, a break in relations, then suffer that he did not leave, and so on.
At the same time, a man feels something like this: how can I cope with everyone? And is a kind of defector between the two sides. And he likes it, because if the game was not so interesting, it would not be played. It adds excitement and relieves tension in relationships. You can play endlessly, but the one who gives up wins, in the sense that he makes the decision first.
I recommend asking questions to all three: how long are you willing to wait for changes in a couple, and what are you willing to do yourself in order to change something? Are you ready to get out of it if you are tired of it? How profitable is it for you to play?
Sometimes it is worth giving up, trying to move away, letting go, and then the triangle falls apart. After all, it exists as long as three are involved in it.
From practice
How often do love triangles end? Divorce or keeping the family together?
With a relationship in a love triangle, if the divorce did not take place in the first two years, it is highly likely that it will not happen. women meeting with married man, they think: “When he gets divorced, we will have a strong happy family with him.” Unfortunately, in 90% of cases this is not the case. Because the roles in the love triangle are distributed clearly, and for a man, a mistress will almost never become a wife.
The context of the relationship between lovers usually does not translate into a husband-wife relationship, even if they sign up, as this requires a big change in the relationship, and sometimes a completely different relationship. It is highly likely that in this case a man can again look for a mistress.
By the way
The theme of love is full of myths and stereotypes. For example, around absolute polygamy and monogamy, which in fact do not exist. Because every species, and people too, must develop and give birth to healthy offspring. Anthropologists, studying the nature of people, have come to the conclusion that men and women are equally polygamous and monogamous until they find the best partner with whom they can live their whole lives.
Let's start by defining what an angle is. Firstly, it is Secondly, it is formed by two rays, which are called the sides of the angle. Thirdly, the latter come out of one point, which is called the apex of the corner. Based on these signs, we can make a definition: the angle - geometric figure, which consists of two rays (sides) emerging from one point (vertex).
They are classified by degrees, by location relative to each other and relative to the circle. Let's start with the types of angles by their size.
There are several varieties of them. Let's take a closer look at each type.
There are only four main types of angles - right, obtuse, acute and developed angle.
Straight
It looks like this:
Its degree measure is always 90 o, in other words, a right angle is an angle of 90 degrees. Only such quadrangles as a square and a rectangle have them.
Blunt
It looks like this:
The degree measure is always greater than 90 degrees, but less than 180 degrees. It can occur in such quadrangles as a rhombus, an arbitrary parallelogram, in polygons.
Spicy
It looks like this:
The degree measure of an acute angle is always less than 90°. It occurs in all quadrilaterals, except for a square and an arbitrary parallelogram.
deployed
The expanded angle looks like this:
It does not occur in polygons, but it is no less important than all the others. A straight angle is a geometric figure, the degree measure of which is always 180º. You can build on it by drawing one or more rays from its vertex in any direction.
There are several other secondary types of angles. They are not studied in schools, but it is necessary to know at least about their existence. There are only five secondary types of angles:
1. Zero
It looks like this:
The very name of the angle already speaks of its magnitude. Its interior area is 0 o, and the sides lie on top of each other as shown in the figure.
2. Oblique
Oblique can be straight, and obtuse, and acute, and developed angle. Its main condition is that it should not be equal to 0 o, 90 o, 180 o, 270 o.
3. Convex
Convex are zero, right, obtuse, acute and developed angles. As you already understood, the degree measure of a convex angle is from 0 o to 180 o.
4. Non-convex
Non-convex are angles with a degree measure from 181 o to 359 o inclusive.
5. Full
A complete angle is 360 degrees.
These are all types of angles according to their size. Now consider their types by location on the plane relative to each other.
1. Additional
These are two acute angles that form one straight line, i.e. their sum is 90 o.
2. Related
Adjacent angles are formed if a ray is drawn in any direction through a deployed, more precisely, through its top. Their sum is 180 o.
3. Vertical
Vertical angles are formed when two lines intersect. Their degree measures are equal.
Now let's move on to the types of angles located relative to the circle. There are only two of them: central and inscribed.
1. Central
The central angle is the one with the vertex at the center of the circle. Its degree measure is equal to the degree measure of the smaller arc subtended by the sides.
2. Inscribed
An inscribed angle is one whose vertex lies on the circle and whose sides intersect it. Its degree measure is equal to half of the arc on which it rests.
It's all about the corners. Now you know that in addition to the most famous - sharp, obtuse, straight and deployed - in geometry there are many other types of them.
Each angle, depending on its size, has its own name:
| Angle view | Size in degrees | Example |
|---|---|---|
| Spicy | Less than 90° | |
| Straight | Equal to 90°. In the drawing, a right angle is usually denoted by a symbol drawn from one side of the angle to the other. |
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| Blunt | Greater than 90° but less than 180° |  |
| deployed | Equals 180° A straight angle is equal to the sum of two right angles, and a right angle is half the straight angle. |
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| Convex | More than 180° but less than 360° |  |
| Full | Equals 360° |  |
The two corners are called related, if they have one side in common, and the other two sides form a straight line:
corners MOP And pon adjacent since the beam OP- the common side, and the other two sides - OM And ON make up a straight line.
Common side adjacent corners called oblique to straight, on which the other two sides lie, only if the adjacent angles are not equal to each other. If adjacent angles are equal, then their common side will be perpendicular.
The sum of adjacent angles is 180°.
The two corners are called vertical, if the sides of one angle complement to straight lines the sides of another angle:
Angles 1 and 3, as well as angles 2 and 4, are vertical.
Vertical angles are equal.
Let's prove that vertical angles are equal:
The sum of ∠1 and ∠2 is a straight angle. And the sum of ∠3 and ∠2 is a straight angle. So these two sums are equal:
∠1 + ∠2 = ∠3 + ∠2.
In this equality, on the left and on the right there is the same term - ∠2. Equality is not violated if this term on the left and on the right is omitted. Then we get.
