Linguists cannot determine how many languages are left in the world. Some say about 3000, others say more than 6000. Some of them disappear, some are removed artificially. Some are quite difficult, and some can be learned in a month. But there is one language that will not die as long as a person still has limbs and facial expressions. There are no words in this language, but they can express and say much more. We are, of course, talking about .
Our brain perceives movements and postures on a subconscious level. Nature has decreed that we easily tell our interlocutors about our internal state. Fortunately, not everyone knows how to read these messages. Well, those who know how can easily see through your bluff and begin to manipulate you. So let's take a look at 5 basic techniques that will teach you not only how to manipulate your interlocutor, but also how to keep your emotions in check.
1. Where are your fingers?
Do you fold your hands and fidget with your fingers during a conversation? Not cowardly and pitifully, with his head down and hands pressed to his body, but proudly, self-sufficiently, imposingly. Your hands are on the table, you are slumped on a chair, your speech is firm and measured. At such moments, your finger movements are slow, mainly one finger moves, and the amplitude of its movement is quite wide.
But the situation is different. You feel insecure, pressed, perhaps afraid of something. The movements have lost confidence, the thumbs are hidden, they are not visible at all. The hands twitch subtly. As a result, everyone else has the pleasure of watching your horrific self-doubt.
2. Fingers with a house - a gesture of the powers that be
Watch your fingers, young man, because they are the litmus test of your self-confidence. Pay attention to world leaders, politicians, businessmen, Professor Charles Xavier - they are very fond of folding their hands in a “house” (when only the fingers of both hands are connected, and there is emptiness between the palms. As in prayer, but without completely touching the palms). This gesture makes people clear about their attitude to the issue under discussion and warns them that they are ready to stubbornly defend their point of view. If the “house” is raised too high, then superiority is expressed in this way. If the “house” is lowered down, then this shows that the interlocutor is listening very carefully and, in principle, is ready to consider the proposal.
Circumstances can change quickly and make adjustments to our attitude towards events and people. In such cases, a split second is enough for us to turn a gesture of complete confidence into a demonstration of uncertainty. If confidence is shaken or a seed of doubt appears in the brain, then our fingers connected by a “house” can instantly intertwine and bring our hands into a prayer position. A person can repeatedly change the position of his fingers, either connecting them in a “house” (a sign of confidence), or intertwining them with each other (a sign of uncertainty). These changes accurately reflect the process of struggle between confidence and doubt that occurs with varying success.
3. Don't touch your neck
Your interlocutor should under no circumstances notice that you are nervous. If you have some kind of polemic or argument, he will immediately feel confident and has every chance of crushing you morally.
As we have already found out, the first thing that gives away is not facial expressions, but hands. Many, in order to calm themselves and allay doubts, grab their necks. A completely natural reaction in response to stress is that you try to pull yourself together. You grab yourself by the neck like a naughty kitten by the scruff of the neck to shake and put yourself in order. This is quite understandable from a scientific point of view - there are a lot of nerve endings in the neck that lower blood pressure and heart rate, which is why we always instinctively reach for the neck. When you rub the back of your head once again If you fiddle with your tie, pull down your collar, you are sending an SOS signal to your opponents.
In general, everything is very difficult with the neck: the more nervous you are, the less visible it is. Honestly, the shoulders begin to fidget, the posture is lost, the shoulders rise higher and higher, and ridiculous turns of the head from side to side become more and more frequent. Therefore, in any situation, keep your hands away from your neck and your head as high as possible.
4. Take up space
Posture is another important one. The more space you occupy visually, the more impressive your person seems - it immediately becomes clear who the leader is here. And if you are huddled in a chair and buried in your smartphone, then no one will have any desire to treat you with respect.
Researchers also found that so-called expansive poses (which take up more and more space) lead to higher levels of testosterone, a hormone associated with confidence and strength, and lower levels of cortisol, which can reduce anxiety. Another recent study from Harvard University concluded that expansive postures improve performance and give you a better chance of a successful interview or presentation.
If you want to be respected by others, then keep your back straight and do not fold your arms near your chest - on the contrary, try to keep them away from your body. “We essentially exist in the animal kingdom, where the habit of taking up more space and being as present as possible in physical space is used as a signal to attract a mate. An open posture demonstrates that the individual occupies a certain place in the hierarchy and, accordingly, has access to resources,” said one of the authors of the study.
Just don’t hover over your interlocutors like Comrade Stalin over the executed people’s commissars. This pose is perceived as direct aggression.
5. Stand up and speak
As you know, sitting is harmful. Not only for health, but also for your own position in society. In general, we don’t really treat people who are sedentary. Therefore, the one who makes a speech standing up in your circle of interests automatically gains more weight - you want to agree with him, he subconsciously wants to obey. It can be seen and heard well from everywhere.
If you're going to dominate, lean forward a little with your hands on the table. Especially if you are conducting complex negotiations or disputes. Immediately a small balance will be on your side, because you have shown who is the master here.
DO NOT POINT WITH YOUR FINGER
Focus group research suggests that prosecutors in court should be careful when pointing their index finger at the defendant during opening statements. The jury does not like this behavior because the prosecutor has no right to make such pointing gestures until the defendant is proven guilty. It will be much better if he starts pointing at the defendant with all his fingers (palm up) than with his finger. Only after the defendant has been proven guilty can the prosecutor point an angry finger at him during his closing argument. This may seem like a small thing to some, but dozens of surveys of potential jurors clearly indicate their scrupulousness in this matter. So in my classes, I simply tell lawyers that they shouldn't point fingers at anyone in the courtroom. As for others life situations, then it is better for all of us to avoid this gesture when communicating with our in-laws or children, as well as with colleagues at work. Pointing a finger is always an expression of aggression.
using the hand or fingers. Some of them, such as the extended middle finger (in America this gesture is called “release the bird”), have been so well known since Ancient Rome that do not need comments. It is rude to snap your fingers in an attempt to attract someone's attention; You should never use a gesture that calls a dog. When, during the Michael Jackson trial in 2005, the mother of one of the victims began snapping her fingers at the jury as if they were waiters in a restaurant, they did not like it very much and ultimately influenced the verdict. Those of you who are interested in the topic of the use and meaning of gestures in different countries world, can turn to the vast literature devoted to the eloquence of the hands in expressing human emotions.
When preening, do not forget about decency
When a person is concerned about his appearance, he uses his fingers to tidy up his clothes, hairstyle and body. During courtship, people preen much more often than usual - and the object of their attention becomes not only their own appearance, but also the appearance of their partner. The intimate nature of the relationship gives the woman the right to carefully wipe away a speck of dust from her lover’s sleeve, and for him to gently remove a crumb of food stuck to the corner of her mouth. Mothers behave in a similar way towards their children, not only in humans, but also in other species of mammals and birds (scientists call this grooming). Typically, this behavior indicates care and closeness. As for romantic relationships, observing such actions allows us to judge the degree of mutual understanding and closeness of the partners.
However, sometimes preening can have a negative effect. For example, if a person begins to selflessly concern himself with his appearance at the moment when something is said to him, then such behavior is considered impolite and disrespectful (see Fig. 47). In addition, some ways of preening in public are more socially acceptable than others. No one will judge you if, while sitting on the bus, you take off your sweater in °Rsinka, but if you start in public place,
cut your fingernails in front of strangers, they will look at you at all otherwise. In addition, ways of preening that are completely acceptable in one situation or country may not be acceptable in another. And finally, you should never tidy things up with your own hands. appearance another person, unless your relationship has reached a level of intimacy that gives you the right to behave in such a way.
Appearance of the hands
Observation of the hands sometimes allows determine a profession or favorite hobby person. Those who engage in heavy physical labor are exposed to calluses and rough skin on their hands. An agricultural worker or athlete can be identified by
characteristic scars received on the farm or in competitions. The habit of standing with your hands with bent fingers at the sides and in the middle of your thighs indicates that the person is well acquainted with the command “at attention.” Calluses on fingertips one hand is a characteristic sign of a guitarist.
In addition, we can judge by our hands whether we take good care of ourselves and how we relate to social conventions. Hands and nails can be well-groomed or neglected. For some reason, it is believed that long nails in men are a sign of effeminacy, and the habit of biting fingernails is usually perceived as evidence of nervousness or insecurity (see Fig. 48). Since the hands are so important to the human brain, hand hygiene should be a special concern for anyone who wants to make a good impression on others.
Sweaty palms
No one likes to shake hands with someone whose palms are clammy, so I advise anyone who gets sweaty hands when meeting people (especially someone as important as a potential employer, in-laws, or influential philanthropists) to wipe their palms before reaching out. them for shaking. Our palms sweat not only when we are very hot, but also when we are nervous or stressed. If, when you come into contact with a person, you find that their palms are sweaty, this may mean that they are experiencing stress (excitement of the limbic system causes increased sweating). Consider this an opportunity to earn a few interpersonal positives and do your best to subtly help the person calm down. Encouraging and comforting people who are under stress sets the stage for open, effective, and successful interactions better than most.
Some people believe that if a person's palms sweat, it means he is lying. This is a typical misconception. The sweat glands are controlled by the same part of our nervous system that is activated during the limbic freeze, flight, or fight (sympathetic) response. nervous system). If sweaty palms can be caused by something as simple as meeting a new person, then this phenomenon cannot be interpreted as an indicator of deception. According to Peter Colette, author of the book “The Language of Thoughts. How to learn to read a person’s thoughts by his movements and actions,” approximately five percent of the population suffers from excessive sweating, and such chronic sweating becomes the cause unpleasant humidity palms (in medicine, such excessive sweating is called hyperhidrosis). Sweaty palms are not a sign of deception. This is just a sign of stress or, in some cases, a genetic disorder. Therefore, I advise you to be very careful when assessing the causes of wet palms. All the claims by so-called "experts" that when a person lies, his palms sweat, is simply fiction.
READING NONVERBAL HAND SIGNALS
So far we have talked about how the behavior of the hands and their appearance create a certain impression on other people. Now let's look at some nonverbal hand signals that help us understand what other people are thinking and feeling. I'll start with a few general comments about how the hands reveal information, and then move on to some of the typical signals of confidence and uncertainty that the hands provide to help us read people as we interact with them.
Nervous behavior of the hands conveys important information
The ends of our hands and fingers are specially designed to perform small and precise movements. When the limbic brain is overstimulated or stressed or nervous, a powerful release of neurotransmitters and hormones such as adrenaline (epinephrine) causes uncontrollable shaking of the hands and fingers. Additionally, our hands may shake when we hear, see, or think about things that may have negative consequences. Any objects in our hands at this moment can intensify this trembling, which contains a telegraph message from the brain: “I am stressed.” This shaking becomes especially noticeable when a person is holding something thin and long, such as a pencil or cigarette, or something relatively large but light, such as a piece of paper. The subject begins to tremble immediately after a statement or event that creates a stressful environment.
Positive emotions can also cause trembling of hands that hold a lucky lottery ticket or a winning combination of cards in poker. Any strong excitement or excitement causes trembling in the hands, which cannot always be calmed by an effort of will, since this is a limbic reaction not controlled by consciousness. When parents, spouses, and other family members eagerly await a soldier or relative returning home, their hands often shake with excitement. To stop shaking, they can hold each other's hands, tuck their hands under their arms, or clap their hands at chest level. Old videos of the Beatles' first visit to America are full of footage of young girls clapping their hands to calm the trembling caused by extreme excitement.
When you notice that someone's hands are shaking, then, first of all, determine whether this is caused by fear or joy. To do this, you need to evaluate this element of behavior in context - analyze the circumstances in which it arose. If hand shaking is accompanied by soothing actions such as touching your neck or closing your lips, then I personally tend to attribute it to stress (something negative) rather than something positive.
It should be noted that hand trembling can only be considered a nonverbal communication signal if it results from a change in normal hand behavior. If person hands tremble constantly (in medicine this is called tremor), because, for example, he abuses coffee or is addicted to drugs, alcohol, then such a tremor, although it reveals certain information about a person, is still part of the basic model of non-verbal behavior of this person. Similarly, in people with certain neurological disorders, such as Parkinson's disease, hand tremors may have nothing to do with their emotional state. Therefore, if such a person’s hands suddenly stop shaking for a while, then this may be the result of a conscious attempt to concentrate on a specific object that was just discussed. As you remember, the most important thing for us is a change in behavior.
As general recommendation I will say that any Hand Shaking that suddenly starts and stops or is in some other noticeable way different from the basic behavior pattern deserves careful analysis. Making an informed interpretation of this behavior, taking into account the context in which it occurs and the moment in which it occurs, as well as any other actions or gestures that support your conclusions, will significantly improve your ability to read people correctly.
THERE IS NO SMOKE (NERVOUS SHIVERING) WITHOUT FIRE
When I had the opportunity to investigate a high-profile espionage case, I interrogated a man who might have information that interested us. During the interrogation, he lit a cigarette. I had no real leads to believe he was involved in the case: no witnesses to the crime, no promising leads, only vague assumptions about who might be involved. During the interrogation, I mentioned the names of many people of interest to the FBI and Army intelligence in connection with this case, and I noticed that every time I mentioned the name of a certain Conrad, cigarette in the man’s hand it twitched like a polygraph (lie detector) recorder. To understand whether this was a simple coincidence or something more significant, I began to test his reaction by calling some other names. There was no reaction. And yet, in four different situations, when I called the name Conrad, the informant's cigarette fluttered every time. For me, this was enough to convince me of the existence of a connection between the interrogated person and the unknown Conrad. The shaking of the cigarette was a limbic response to threat. In addition, I realized that the mention of this name caused a person to feel dangerous, and therefore he either knew something about the crime or was directly involved in it.
During this first interrogation, I did not know whether the informant was or was not actually involved in the crime, because, frankly, I had not yet had time to delve into all the details. The only thing that prompted us to continue the investigation in this direction and conduct additional interrogations was his “hand trembling” reaction in response to the mention of one name. Perhaps, if not for this small detail of behavior, he would have been able to elude justice. Finally, after many interrogations over the course of a year, he confessed to helping Conrad carry out espionage activities and confessed to all his crimes.
HAND SIGNALS EXPRESSING CONFIDENCE
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Confidence signals express an extremely comfortable state of the brain. Some signs of confidence given with the help of the hands show us that the person is quite happy and satisfied with the current state of affairs.
Hands "house"
Joining hands in a “house” is perhaps the most expressive emblem of complete confidence in one’s rightness and the strength of one’s position (see Fig. 49). The gesture consists of connecting the tips of the straightened fingers of both hands and is similar to the position of the hands during prayer, differing only in that the bases fingers spread apart and palms do not touch. It is called a “house” because the hands form something like the peaked roof of a church building. In the United States, women hold their hands low (usually at waist level) when performing this gesture, which can sometimes make it difficult to notice. Men tend to fold their hands in a “house” at chest level, making the gesture more noticeable and expressive.
Hands folded in a “house” mean that you are confident in your opinion or position. This gesture
Gives people a clear understanding of your position on the issue being discussed and warns that you are willing to stubbornly defend your point of view. People of high status (lawyers, judges, doctors) often include finger-joining in their daily expressive repertoire to emphasize self-confidence and superiority. Each of us uses this gesture from time to time, but the difference is how often and in what form. Some people do this all the time, others rarely, others modify the gesture (for example, they connect only straightened index fingers and thumbs, and intertwine the rest). Some people fold their hands under the table, others high in front of them, and some even above their heads.
Those who are unaware of the nonverbal meaning of this expressive gesture may hold their hands
“house” for a long time, especially in situations favorable to oneself. And even when people know perfectly well that this gesture reveals their condition, they still find it difficult to hide it. The limbic brain brings this reaction to such a degree of automaticity that it turns out to be extremely difficult to suppress it, especially in a state of excitement, when a person forgets about the need to monitor and control his actions.
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Circumstances can quickly change and make adjustments to our attitude towards events and people. In such cases, a split second is enough for us to turn a gesture of complete confidence into a demonstration of uncertainty. If our confidence is shaken or a seed of doubt appears in our brain, then our fingers connected by a “house” can instantly intertwine and bring our hands into a prayer position (see Fig. 50). These changes in nonverbal behavior occur very quickly and accurately reflect our instantaneous spontaneous reactions to changing events. A person can repeatedly change the position of his fingers, either connecting them in a “house” (a sign of confidence), or intertwining them with each other (a sign of uncertainty). These changes accurately reflect the process of struggle between confidence and doubt that occurs with varying success.
HANDS FOLDED “HOUSE” CONVINCES THE JURY
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The power of nonverbal behavior can be seen by studying the effect of the hand-joining gesture in different social settings. This gesture is useful for use by witnesses in the courtroom, and is even specifically recommended for those who act as expert witnesses. Hands folded like a house emphasize important points and confirm the expert’s confidence in what he is saying. When experts behave this way, their conclusions are more persuasive to jurors than when they keep their hands in their laps or interlock their fingers. It is interesting to note that when the prosecutor folds his hands during his witness's testimony, the credibility of the testimony increases because the jury appears to the defense attorney to agree with the witness's statements. On the other hand, when jurors see a witness intertwining or wringing his fingers, they usually consider this behavior a sign of nervousness or may even suspect him of lying (unfortunately, this happens quite often). It is important to note that such behavior is common to both honest and dishonest people, and therefore these gestures cannot automatically be considered signs of deception. However, I advise all witnesses to either clasp their hands or cup their hands together without interlocking their fingers, as these gestures appear more authentic, confident and natural.
Folded into a “house” and located on the right level hands can be used to influence people positively. This gesture can convey such a high degree of confidence and firmness that it becomes difficult for people to challenge a person who uses such a nonverbal signal. Consciously developing the habit of folding your hands can be very useful. In particular, lecturers and sales agents should use this gesture more often when they want to appear particularly convincing, and everyone else should use this gesture more often when they want to emphasize the meaning of what they are saying. Also think about how assertive gestures can help you during job interviews, when presenting your ideas in meetings, or when simply having candid conversations with friends.
Too often in professional meetings, I notice women tucking their fingers under the table or very low. In fact, they own with their hands they undermine their confidence. Hopefully, recognizing the power of this gesture as an indicator of confidence, competence and toughness - qualities needed to earn recognition - will help these women continue to display this trusty weapon above the table.
EXPRESSIVE SIGNALS OF THE THUMBS
I find it very interesting to observe how verbal language sometimes mirrors nonverbal language. When film critics rate a film with both thumbs up, it means they are confident in its quality. A thumbs up is almost always a nonverbal sign of confidence. In addition, it is associated with high status. Look at photographs of JFK and note how often he kept his hands in his pockets with his thumbs pointed outward (see Figure 51). His brother Bobby did the same. Lawyers, college professors, and doctors often hold the lapels of their jackets with their thumbs up. One large national network of modeling and portrait photography studios requires its artists to ensure that women in photographs must hold at least one hand on the collar and hold it up thumb. Obviously, the marketers of this company are well aware that thumbs up are an expressive sign of confidence and high status.
Demonstrating confidence and high status
When people point their thumbs up, it means that they have a high opinion of themselves and/or are confident that they are right and in their current position (see Figures 52 and 53). Thumbs up is another example of nonverbal, gravity-defying behavior that is typically associated with a state of comfort and confidence.
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the interlacing of the fingers expresses uncertainty in all cases except one - when the thumbs look straight up. It has been noted that people who use expressive signals with their thumbs are distinguished by insight, observation and intelligence. Observe those who have a habit of giving thumbs up and see how well they fit this description. Under normal circumstances, people rarely display thumbs up, so when they do, it is safe to assume that this expressive behavior indicates positive feelings.
Showing insecurity and low status
Rice. 54. Thumbs in trouser pockets are a sign of insecurity and low status. People in positions of power should avoid such nonverbal displays of weakness.
The feeling of insecurity is manifested when a person (usually a man) puts his thumbs in his trouser pockets and leaves the rest dangling at the sides (see Fig. 54). When a person applying for a job behaves this way, it means that he strongly doubts his chances. People with leadership qualities or influence do not allow themselves to show such signs of weakness in their service. A person of high position can demonstrate such a gesture somewhere on vacation, but will never do it if he is “on duty.” This position of the thumbs is almost always an expressive sign of uncertainty and weakness. The expressive signals of the thumbs are so accurate that they can be successfully used to recognize those who are happy with themselves AND those who are having a hard time making ends meet. I have seen more than once how trials people began their speech confidently and folded their hands, but after the first difficult question their thumbs ended up in their pockets. This behavior of the thumbs is reminiscent of the behavior of a child standing in front of an upset mother and shows how quickly a firm belief in one’s rightness can give way to complete confusion.
Framing the genitals
Sometimes men subconsciously put their thumbs in the waistband on either side of the fly and either pull up their pants or leave them
Why do you need finger gymnastics?
Let's summarize how many useful things we do by playing finger games.
1. Developing speech. By exercising and moving his fingers rhythmically, the baby activates the speech centers of the brain.
2. Finger gymnastics develops the baby's ability to imitate for us adults... teaches you to listen carefully our speech and understanding it… increases speech activity crumbs... and just creates a favorable emotional atmosphere.
3. Teaches the child concentrate attention and distribute it correctly. This is a very, very important skill! By the way, a child can learn to control his attention voluntarily only by the age of 6-7 years. And his school success will largely depend on this skill.
4. When the baby starts talking and can accompany the finger gymnastics exercise with poetry, this will do it speech is clearer, more rhythmic, brighter. In addition, this way he can increase control over your movements.
5. In finger games you need to remember a lot: the position of the fingers, the sequence of movements, and just poetry. Here's a great fun exercise for you. to develop your baby's memory!
6. Is it possible to use finger games? develop fantasy and imagination? Certainly! After all, you can “tell” whole stories with your hands! First, mom or dad will show an example, and only then the child can create his own “finger stories.”
7. Well, in the end, after all these exercises hands and fingers will become strong, mobile, flexible. And this will help in the future mastering writing skills!
Mouse
The mouse snuck into the hole,
(We make sneaking movements with both handles)
It was locked with a padlock.
(Slightly wiggle your crossed fingers)
She's looking through the hole
(Make a ring with your fingers)
The cat is sitting on the fence!
(We put our hands to our heads like ears and move our fingers)
Two girlfriends.
Two girlfriends on the lawn (Clap their knees to the rhythm of the text)
Kva-kva-kva, kva-kva-kva. (Clap your hands to the rhythm of the text)
Two green frogs: (Clap knees)
Kva-kva-kva, kva-kva-kva. (Clap hands).
Kwa! (Tap one foot).
They sing songs in chorus: (Fold your palms and open the frogs’ mouths slightly).
Kwa-kwa-kwa, (clap your hands)
Kva-kva-kva. (Tap your feet to the rhythm of the text).
And they prevent you from sleeping peacefully (Wag your finger).
Kva-kva-kva, kva-kva-kva! (Clap your hands). Kwa!
The finger is thick and BIG
I went to the garden to pick plums.
INDEX from the threshold
Showed him the way.
The MIDDLE finger is the most accurate.
He knocks plums off the branch.
NAMELESS eats.
And the little finger is a gentleman
Plants seeds in the ground.
The house is located on the edge of the forest. (Put your palms together above your head).
There is a lock on the door. (Close your palms into a “lock”).
There is a table behind the doors, (Cover the palm of your right hand over the fist of your left).
There is a palisade around the house. (Hands in front of you, fingers spread).
Knock-Knock! Open the door! (Knock the fist of one palm on the other).
Come in, I'm not evil! (Arms to the sides, palms back up).
Compote.
We place one hand palm up, and move the index finger of the other hand along the palm in a circular motion, “stirring the compote”:
We cook, we cook compote.
You need a lot of fruit. Here: (Bend your fingers one by one.)
Let's chop apples
Cut and cook pears
Squeeze the lemon juice
We'll put in some drainage and sand. (We straighten all our fingers and “mix” again.)
We cook, we cook compote,
Let's treat the honest people!
Fingers.
Bend the fingers of your left hand, starting with the little finger, one by one towards your palm with the words:
This finger wants to sleep
This finger went to bed
This finger took a little nap,
This finger has already fallen asleep,
Hush, hush, don’t make any noise, (We pump the fist with our right hand.)
The red sun will rise,
The clear morning will come,
The birds will chirp
Fingers will stand up! (Fingers fan out with force.)
House on the mountain.
On the mountain we see a house. (Fold the house with your hands).
Lots of greenery around. (Wave-like movements of the hands).
Here are the trees, here are the bushes (Make “trees” and “bushes” with your hands).
Here are fluffy flowers! (Use your fingers to show a bud - a blooming flower).
There is a fence surrounding everything. (Show a “fence” of fingers in front of you).
Behind the fence is a clean yard. (Stroke the table with your palms).
We open the gates (Use your hands to show the gates, the gates open).
We quickly run up to the house. (Run your fingers across the table).
We knock on the door: “Knock, knock, knock!” "(Knock on the table with your fists).
Someone is coming to our door. (Put your palm to your right ear, listen).
We came to visit a friend
And they brought gifts. (Stretch your arms forward, as if presenting something)
"Orange"
We shared an orange! (Fist “orange” in front of you.)
There are many of us, (The left hand is spread out - this is “we.”)
And he is alone. (We turn our gaze to the fist.)
This slice is for kittens, (Bend one finger.)
This slice is for ducklings, (Bend the other finger.)
This slice is for the snake, (Bend the third finger.)
This slice is for siskin, (Bend the fourth finger.)
This slice is for the beaver, (Bend the fifth finger.)
And for the wolf the peel! (Shake the brush with relaxed fingers, like a peel.)
The wolf is angry - trouble,
Run away in all directions! (We hide our hands behind our backs.)
"Ship"
A boat is sailing along the river, (Place your palms together like a boat.)
He swims from afar. (Wave movements with hands.)
There are four on the boat (Show 4 fingers on each hand at the same time.)
A very brave sailor.
They have ears on the top of their heads. (Place both palms towards the top of your head.)
They have long tails. (Fold your fingers into a pinch and spread them apart.)
And only cats are scary to them,
Only cats and cats. (Make scratching movements with the spread fingers of both hands.)
"Clouds"
Clouds like sails (Draw a triangle with your index fingers.)
The wind rushes them, drives them, (Sharply push one hand forward, then the other.)
If there are a lot of clouds - (Put your hand in front of you, all fingers spread.)
It will definitely rain. (Tapping the index finger of one hand on the palm of the other.)
Well, if there are clouds,
Like the feather of a firebird, (Raise your right hand up, spread your fingers.)
There will be sunshine in the morning, (Both hands up, spread your fingers, spread your arms to the sides.)
The birds will chirp. (Draw wings with your hands.)
And they will collide head-on - (Fist hitting fist.)
They will turn into a cloud, (Draw a large circle in the air.)
And then thunder rumbles - (Clap your hands.)
These clouds are angry. (Clench your fists, put your hands in front of you.)
Bunny.
The bunny was jumping through the forest, (fingers “jump” on the table)
The bunny was looking for food. (we move the fingers of both hands alternately across the table)
Suddenly the bunny is on top of his head
The ears rose like arrows. (we depict ears with hands)
A quiet rustle is heard:
Someone is sneaking through the forest. (fingers slowly walk across the table)
The hare confuses his tracks
Running away from trouble . (fingers quickly and quickly run in circles on the table)
Fingers.
Here are my helpers,
Turn them any way you want.
One two three four five,
They can't sit again.
They knocked, turned,
And they didn’t want to work.
This finger wants to sleep
This finger is a jump into bed,
This finger took a nap
This finger has already fallen asleep.
And the other one has been sleeping for a long time. (We bend our fingers, starting with the thumb).
Who's making noise here?
Hush, hush, don't make noise,
Don't wake up your fingers! (Whispers).
The clear morning will come,
The clear sun will rise, (Louder)
The birds will begin to sing,
Your fingers will start to rise. (Loud) .
Wake up, kids!
IN kindergarten it's time to go! (Everyone raises their hands with open palms).
My fingers.
Days of the week.
On Monday I did the laundry (Rub fists together)
I swept the floor on Tuesday. (relaxed hands down and make simulating movements on the table)
On Wednesday I baked kalach (baking “pies”)
All Thursday I was looking for the ball, (we bring our right hand to our forehead and make a “visor”)
I washed the cups on Friday, (the fingers of the left hand are half bent, the palm is on the edge, and the index finger of the right hand is moved in a circle inside the left hand)
And on Saturday I bought a cake . (palms open and joined together on the side of the little fingers)
All my girlfriends on Sunday
Invited for my birthday . (we wave our palms towards ourselves)
"Malanya"
At Malanya's, at the old lady's
(Clap your hands: then right, then left hand above.)
Lived in a small hut
(Fold your arms at an angle, showing the “hut.”)
Seven sons
(Show seven fingers.)
All without eyebrows
(Outline the eyebrows with your fingers.)
With ears like these,
(Palms with fingers spread out to your ears.)
With noses like these,
(Show a long nose by placing your palms with your fingers spread out one behind the other.)
With a head like this
(Draw a large circle around your head.)
With such a beard!
(Show a big beard with your hands.)
They didn't drink or eat
(Bring the “cup” to your mouth with one hand, and the “spoon” with the other.)
Everyone was looking at Malinya
(Holding your hands near your eyes, bat your fingers like eyelashes.)
And everyone did it like this...
(Children show the hidden actions only with their fingers.)
"We've prepared lunch"
One day we sat down to have lunch
(Imitation of moving a spoon.)
And they called the neighbors to their house.
(Call by moving your palm towards you.)
They covered the white tablecloth,
(Movements smooth out the tablecloth.)
The spoons and forks were laid out,
(Step-by-step movements with the right hand, palm down from left to right.)
Sliced bread and cheese
(Moves up and down with the edge of the palm.)
Prepared side dish
(Sharp rubbing with fingertips.)
Stir it in a cup
(Rotational movements forward, one hand goes behind the other.)
(Make rings from your thumb and index finger, connect them, and then spread them apart, depicting a round sausage.)
And cutlets made from minced meat for everyone
We fried without a diet.
(Palms are placed alternately on top of each other.)
Salted, peppered,
(Small movements with a pinch of fingers.)
Kneaded. Don't forget
(Clenching and unclenching fingers.)
Put the angry onion
(Show “collection of tears” in the palm.)
And quickly close everything.
(Clap your palm horizontally.)
Prepared, tired,
They didn't bake the cake.
(Run across forehead with the back of your hand.)
Winter.
One two three four five, (bend your fingers one at a time)
We went for a walk in the yard.
They sculpted a snow woman, (simulate sculpting lumps),
The birds were fed crumbs, ("crumb the bread" with all your fingers)
Then we rode down the hill, (we move the palm of our right hand over the palm of our left hand)
And they were also lying in the snow. (we place our palms on the table with one side or the other)
Everyone came home covered in snow, (we shake off our palms)
We ate soup and went to bed. (we make movements with an imaginary spoon, put our hands under our cheeks)
Finger game"House on the Mountain"
On the mountain we see a house. (Fold your hands into a “house.”)
Lots of greenery around. (Wave-like movements with the hands.)
Here are the trees, here are the bushes. (Make “trees”, “bushes” with your hands.)
Here are fragrant flowers. (Show “bud” with your fingers.)
There is a fence surrounding everything. (Show “fence” with your fingers.)
Behind the fence is a clean yard. (Stroke the table with your palms.)
We are opening the gates. (Use your hands to show the “gate.”)
We quickly run up to the house. (Run your fingers across the table.)
We knock on the door: “Knock, knock, knock!” (Knock on the table with your fists.)
Someone is coming to knock on us... (Put your palm to your right ear, “listen.”)
We came to visit a friend. (Stretch your arms forward, presenting something.)
And they brought gifts.
Finger game "House"
I want to build a house Hands above your head like a house
So that there is a window in it, Hands before eyes. The ends of the fingers are closed in a ring
So that the house has a door, The palms are turned towards you, closed at the sides.
So that the pine tree grows nearby, Fingers spread out. We pull our hands up
So that there is a fence around Hands in front of you, fingers connected
The dog guarded the gate. Palms clasped in front of chest, thumbs
raised
There was sun Cross your hands, fingers spread
It was raining Shaking movements
And the tulip bloomed in the garden. Forearms are pressed. Petal fingers look
Up
"AUTUMN LEAVES"
“LARISKA HAS TWO RADISHES”
“THE RAIN WENT OUT FOR A WALK”
Yablonka
There is an apple tree by the road,
Interlace your hands above your head, fingers unclenched.
An apple hangs on a branch.
Place your wrists together.
I shook the branch hard
Hands above head, forward and backward movements.
Here we have an apple.
Palms in front of the chest, imitate holding an apple.
I'll dig into the sweet apple,
Connect your wrists and spread your palms.
Oh, what a pleasant taste.
Walk.
Let's go for a walk, fingers
The hands are clenched into fists, the thumbs “run” across the table.
And the second ones have to catch up.
The index fingers “run” across the table.
A third of your fingers run,
Middle fingers.
And the fourth walk.
Ring fingers.
The fifth finger jumped
Touch the table rhythmically with both little fingers.
And at the end of the road he fell.
Slam your fists on the table.
"On the Christmas tree"
We had fun at the Christmas tree (Rhythmic hand clapping.)
And they danced and frolicked, (Rhythmic fist bumps.)
After good Santa Claus (Children “walk” with the middle and the pointer
He gave us gifts. with the thumbs of both hands on the table.)
Gave huge packages (“Draw” a large circle with their hands.)
They also contain tasty items: (Make rhythmic claps.)
Candies in blue papers, (Bend the fingers on both hands,
Nuts next to them starting from the big one.)
Apple, one golden tangerine.
"Fish"
The fish swims in the water, (Palms clasped together
The fish have fun playing. depict how a fish swims.)
Fish, fish, mischief, (They shake their finger.)
We want to catch you. (Slowly bring palms together.)
The fish arched its back (They depict again,
how a fish swims.)
I took a bread crumb. (They make a grasping
movement with both hands.)
The fish waved its tail (They “float” again.)
The fish quickly swam away.
"Rabbit"
Little rabbit (Press the brushes to the head like ears.)
With big ears
pink nose, (Touch your nose.)
Funny mustache. (Index fingers pressed to lips.)
Digs a deep hole for himself (We dig noku.)
With strong paws
In soft ground.
He cleans his own fur ("Cleaning the fur.")
Or sleeping. (We put our hands under our cheeks.)
The rabbit's ears are always moving. (We move our “ears.”)
He hears the steps of foxes and wolves,
He hides in his hole from his enemies. (Cover your face with your palms.)
"House"
Under the mushroom there is a hut-house, (Palms like a hut)
A cheerful gnome lives there. (Knock the fist of one hand on
We'll knock softly palm of the other hand)
Let's ring the bell. (“Ring the bell”)
The gnome will open the door for us,
He will call you to the hut-house.
The house has a plank floor, (Palms pressed against each other with edges.)
And on it - oak table. (Show the table)
Nearby is a chair with high back (Show the chair)
On the table there is a plate with a fork. (The palm of the left hand is directed
And there are mountains of pancakes - up (plate), right hand(fork):
Treat for the guys. palm facing down
four fingers straightened
and slightly apart, and the big one is pressed to the palm)
« Washing"(finger massage)
We know, we know - yes - yes - yes,
Where are you hiding, water!
(massage each finger in turn)
Come out, vodka,
We came to wash ourselves!
Leisure on your palm
On - it - knife - ku.
No, not a little -
Dare!
It will be more fun to wash your face!
(vigorously rub palms and hands.)
« Caring sun»
The sun sends from the sky
Ray, ray, ray.
(children rhythmically cross their arms above their heads)
And he boldly accelerates them
Clouds, clouds, clouds.
(smoothly shake hands above)
Gently warms in summer
Cheeks, cheeks, cheeks.
(rhythmically rub their cheeks)
And in the spring he puts it on his nose
Dots - dots - dots.
Children's freckles turn golden.
They really like it!
(Rhythmically taps finger on nose.)
"Winter Fun"
We are making a ball out of snow,
(Children clench and unclench their hands)
Let's make a house out of lumps.
(Connect the tips of the fingers, slightly spread the palms to the sides)
Animals will live in the house,
(Clap their hands)
Have fun and make friends
Guard the house together
(Join hands in a “lock”)
One, two, three, four, five, (bend fingers.)
You and I made a snowball. (children “sculpt”)
Round, strong, very smooth (Show a circle, clench your palms, stroke the other with one palm.)
And not at all sweet. (They shake their finger.)
Once - we'll throw it up, (They throw it up).
Two - we'll catch, (Catch).
Three - let's drop (Drop).
And... we'll break it (Stomp).
"Let's help mommy"
“We help mom together -
We wipe away dust everywhere. (Movements according to the text)
We are now washing clothes
Rinse and wring out.
We sweep everything around -
And run for milk.
We meet mom in the evening,
We open the doors wide,
We hug mom tightly.”
"Beanies"
Wearing yellow hats, we became chickens (the child waves his arms like a chicken’s wings.)
In white hats we became little bunnies (shows bunny ears)
In red caps we became mushrooms (joins hands above head).
In black caps there are blueberries on the hummocks, (squats down.)
In blue rain caps they became (stands up, puts his hands on his belt.)
And they easily galloped along the paths. (jumps forward on two legs.)
"Kindness"
If your fingers are sad - | fingers pressed tightly to the palm |
If your fingers cry - | shaking our brushes |
We'll spare our fingers - | “wash” our hands, breathe on them |
We will press our palms to ourselves, | alternately, 1 above, 1 below. |
Let's start stroking gently. | stroke the palm with the other palm |
Let your palms hug, | cross your fingers, press your palms together |
Every finger needs to be taken | We hold each finger in a fist |
Harvest
Vegetables grow in the garden. | |
Count them in order: | |
Cabbage, pepper, cucumber, | fist, edge, palm |
I'm doing great today. | pat ourselves on the chest |
Vegetables grow in the garden | cross your fingers on both hands, raise your fingers in turn |
What will we see here? | connect the fingers of both hands in turn |
Potatoes, tomatoes, carrots, | fist, edge, palm |
We will praise ourselves again. | pat ourselves on the chest |
"New Year"
New Year is coming! | clap your hands |
Children dance in a circle. | hands clasped with fingers, arms extended, hands in and out |
Balls hanging on the Christmas tree | alternately connect the fingers on both hands, forming a ball |
The lanterns are shining. | flashlights |
Here the ice floes sparkle, | clench and unclench your fists in turn |
Snowflakes are spinning. | move your brushes easily and smoothly |
Santa Claus is coming to visit | fingers walk on the knees or on the floor |
He brings gifts to everyone. | three palms together |
slap the knees or the floor, one hand with a palm, the other with a fist, and then change |
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1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10. | massage each finger in turn |
Finger gymnastics “Journey”
Knock-Knock, | near the ear, each finger taps the thumb 3 times |
Here the palms are rustling, | rubbing palms together |
Our fingers are cracking. | rubbing fists together |
Now clap your hands loudly, | |
Now you warm them up. | palms on cheeks |
Are you ready for the trip? | fists on knees |
hands up, palms open |
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We'll hit the road again: | rotational movements of the hands |
We'll board the plane | arms extended to the sides, palms tense |
We're on a ship now | palms up, one up, one down |
The train is coming | move the edge of the palm along the knees or on the table |
The wheels are knocking. | fists bang on knees or table |
There are a lot of funny guys (animals) from the train. | Using the pads of your fingers, alternately press on your knees or on the table |
List the names of children (animals). Children repeat and clap their palms on their knees or on the table.
Winter
Winter has come, | three palms touching each other |
Brought frost. | massage the shoulders and forearms with our fingers |
Winter has come, | three palms touching each other |
Nose freezes. | massage the tip of the nose with your palm |
smooth movements of the palms |
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fists knock on knees alternately |
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palms shuffle across knees in different directions |
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Everyone on the street - forward! | one hand on the knees with the palm, the second hand bent at the elbow, fist (change) |
Let's put on warm pants, | We run our palms along our legs |
A hat, a fur coat, felt boots. | We run our palms over the head, along the arms, stamp our feet |
Let's warm our hands in mittens | circular movements of the palms of one hand around the other palm |
And we'll tie scarves. | Place your palms on top of each other at the base of your neck |
Call it winter month! | palms tapping on knees |
This is December, January, February. | fist, edge, palm |
A person's hands and fingers can tell a lot about his emotional state. Here's what some of them mean.
1. Hidden fingers
When a person hides his hands while talking (putting them, for example, in his pockets), it is possible that he is hiding important information or does not want to talk about something important to him personally. One day I saw my friend Marty at a social event and asked how his wife Ginny was doing. In response, he put his hand in his pocket, saying that she was doing great, and immediately changed the subject. A few days later, I found out that Marty’s family life had cracked and he and Ginny were on the verge of divorce.
2. Angry fingers
Clenched fists usually mean that a person is not expressing his true feelings in words. And if you see someone talking with their fists clenched, then know that they are actually angry or upset. And if a person's thumb is hidden inside his fist, then this means that he feels threatened, scared or worried. When the thumb of one hand is wrapped around all the fingers of the other hand, this is the same protective gesture as crossing your arms over your chest. If people, while talking, raise a finger threateningly or make impulsive, sharp movements with their hands, this also indicates irritation.
3. Lying fingers
A person who is not being honest with you will usually not move their fingers as much, which may be clenched, balled into fists, or tucked into their pockets. Look how hard a person squeezes something when talking: the harder he does this, the greater the internal tension he experiences.
When a person squeezes, for example, the back of a chair, it is as if he is trying to find support for himself in something tangible. People who wrap their arms around themselves experience internal tension, worry and literally try to pull themselves together. If they make such movements, it means that they are not telling the truth or are trying to cope with strong feelings.
4. Honest fingers
If a person is telling the truth, then his palms are open and his fingers are usually straightened. By this he shows his openness and interest in others. This position of the fingers indicates goodwill, that the person is friendly towards you and your ideas. At the same time, showing an open palm indicates a person’s vulnerability in front of other people. If a person shows you the back of his hand, then he is not so benevolent and open; on the contrary, he is closed and inaccessible.
5. Fingers full of expression
When people have a strong belief in something and feel strongly about it powerful emotions, then reveal their enthusiasm by vigorously waving their arms. If they don’t believe something, they move their arms, including their hands, less actively.
6. Stubborn fingers
When you see that a person has his thumb stuck out and the rest straightened or clenched into a fist, this means that he firmly stands his ground and will never change his position. It will be very, very difficult to convince a person who has made such a gesture.
7. Impatient fingers
Fingers drumming on the table usually indicate that the person is impatient or nervous. Likewise, if a person is fiddling with something, such as a bead or bracelet, or twisting his hair, this indicates that he is worried, tense and nervous. This indicates that he is excited and wants to touch something to calm down.
8. Stress fingers
If a person bites his nails or bites the skin around them, wrings his hands or nervously fidgets with something, this also indicates his anxiety. People make these unconscious movements when they are stressed, even if their conversation does not indicate the internal discomfort they are experiencing. Such movements are also a sign of anger or frustration.
9. Fingers that speak of boredom
Anyone who is upset or tired of everything twirls his thumbs while clasping his thumbs together to have a little fun and get rid of boredom.
10. Calm fingers
When a person is calm, this can be seen in his hands. He moves them confidently and slowly, and at the same time smoothly and not mechanically. A person who clasps his fingers together and clasps his head from behind shows that he feels completely safe and is at ease and comfortable.
11. Confident fingers
A confident person often makes gestures with his fingers. whole line movements that reflect this trait of his character. One of them is folding the fingers into a house (when the fingertips of one hand touch the tips of the corresponding fingers of the other hand and the palms form a house). This gesture is often seen among teachers, ministers, politicians, lawyers and people responsible for disseminating information. It is also done by people who often negotiate.
Confidence signals express an extremely comfortable state of the brain. Some signs of confidence given with the help of the hands show us that the person is quite happy and satisfied with the current state of affairs.
Hands "house"
Joining hands in a “house” is perhaps the most expressive emblem of complete confidence in one’s rightness and the strength of one’s position (see Fig. 49). The gesture consists of connecting the tips of the straightened fingers of both hands and is similar to the position of the hands during prayer, differing only in that the bases of the fingers are spread apart and the palms do not touch. It is called a “house” because the hands form something like the peaked roof of a church building. In the United States, women hold their hands low (usually at waist level) when performing this gesture, which can sometimes make it difficult to notice. Men tend to fold their hands in a “house” at chest level, making the gesture more noticeable and expressive.
Rice. 49. By connecting our fingertips, we form a “house,” which is one of the most expressive signs of confidence in our repertoire.
Folded hands mean that you are confident in your opinion or position. This gesture makes it clear to people how you feel about the issue being discussed and warns you that you are willing to stubbornly defend your point of view. People of high status (lawyers, judges, doctors) often include finger-joining in their daily expressive repertoire to emphasize self-confidence and superiority. Each of us uses this gesture from time to time, but the difference is how often and in what form. Some people do this all the time, others rarely, others modify the gesture (for example, they connect only straightened index fingers and thumbs, and intertwine the rest). Some people fold their hands under the table, others high in front of them, and some even above their heads.
Those who know nothing about the non-verbal meaning of this expressive gesture may hold their hands “house” for a long time, especially in favorable situations. And even when people know perfectly well that this gesture reveals their condition, they still find it difficult to hide it. The limbic brain brings this reaction to such a degree of automaticity that it turns out to be extremely difficult to suppress it, especially in a state of excitement, when a person forgets about the need to monitor and control his actions.
Circumstances can change quickly and make adjustments to our attitude towards events and people. In such cases, a split second is enough for us to turn a gesture of complete confidence into a demonstration of uncertainty. If our confidence is shaken or a seed of doubt appears in our brain, then our fingers connected by a “house” can instantly intertwine and bring our hands into a prayer position (see Fig. 50). These changes in nonverbal behavior occur very quickly and accurately reflect our instantaneous spontaneous reactions to changing events. A person can repeatedly change the position of his fingers, either connecting them in a “house” (a sign of confidence), or intertwining them with each other (a sign of uncertainty). These changes accurately reflect the process of struggle between confidence and doubt that occurs with varying success.
Rice. 50. Interlocking your fingers is a universal way to show that we are experiencing stress or anxiety.
Hands folded like a house convince the jury
The power of nonverbal behavior can be seen by studying the effects of the hand-clasping gesture in different social settings. This gesture is useful for use by witnesses in the courtroom, and is even specifically recommended for those who act as expert witnesses. Hands folded in a “house” emphasize important points and confirm the expert’s confidence in what he is saying. When experts behave this way, their conclusions are more persuasive to jurors than when they keep their hands in their laps or interlock their fingers. It is interesting to note that when the prosecutor folds his hands during his witness's testimony, the credibility of the testimony increases because the jury appears to the defense attorney to agree with the witness's statements. On the other hand, when jurors see a witness intertwining or wringing his fingers, they usually consider this behavior a sign of nervousness or may even suspect him of lying (unfortunately, this happens quite often). It is important to note that such behavior is common to both honest and dishonest people, and therefore these gestures cannot automatically be considered signs of deception. However, I advise all witnesses to either clasp their hands or cup their hands together without interlocking their fingers, as these gestures appear more authentic, confident and natural.
Hands folded in a “house” and positioned at the right level can be used to positively influence people. This gesture can convey such a high degree of confidence and firmness that it becomes difficult for people to challenge a person who uses such a nonverbal signal. Consciously developing the habit of folding your hands can be very useful. In particular, lecturers and sales agents should use this gesture more often when they want to appear particularly convincing, and everyone else should use this gesture more often when they want to emphasize the meaning of what they are saying. Also think about how assertive gestures can help you during job interviews, when presenting your ideas in meetings, or when simply having candid conversations with friends.
